Often times we get stuck in life. We get comfortable. We worked hard to get to where we are at at this stage in our lives and the effort needed to continue to grow seems to be harder to overcome.
The solution? Raise the ambition.
“The man who starts out simply with the idea of getting rich won’t succeed, you must have a larger ambition.” – John D Rockefeller
You want to change your life? You want to grow to greater lengths?
Start with thinking bigger for yourself, your career and your family.
Don’t let your vision be limited by your current position in life. There’s always room to grow and this is by raising to a greater sense of ambition. Then deepen you commitment and discipline for making it happen. Discipline means: • Say farewell to what doesn’t lead to real progress. • Get rid of the distractions. • Don’t get stuck in the everyday grind; make your everyday grind consist of adding a new healthy pattern. • Continue to push the limits of what you believe you can achieve. • Create high performance habits. • Understand you’ll get discouraged and trust this is part of the process. I believe in you and so does everyone around you whether they show it or not.
Too often we are hard on ourselves and feel bad about our lack of progress we are making at our goals.
Feeling guilt is usually the culprit. All because we missed days at the gym, or we couldn’t stop eating those unhealthy items that are always staring at us from the candy or soda isle.
But that is looking from the wrong perspective, and it will almost guarantee a lack in progress towards your goal.
Always look back and see what you have accomplished so far. Be grateful that you’ve managed to make progress and feel that pride in doing so. You deserve that feeling.
Take myself for example, I’ve missed a ton of days at the gym and at the yoga studio when I had goals of getting back in shape. I felt plenty guilty. There were times when I splurged on junk food and I felt bad. There were times when I went into a space of total disorganization, and I had 50 unread emails, not responded to.
But focusing on those negative feelings took power over me, I would have probably given up then and there, never reaching my goals. Sure I didn’t hit the deadline, they key is the just look back at the work already accomplished, celebrate the successes no how matter how small they seem. No more beating yourself up! Corey
It’s almost time for a new year and that can mean a new you.
The best way I’ve found to get results is not by making resolutions, but by creating solid habits that will stick for a more long-term goal. If you want to get better at your business, start the habit of self-education and structure. If you want to write a book, start writing. If you want to be more aware, start a habit of meditation or yoga.
That’s not as easy as it sounds, unfortunately. This is a short guide that build the foundation of good habit-building. Those habits will begin to change your life.
If you’d like help creating and forming these habits, reach out to me by leaving a comment
First off, pick a positive habit. One that helps start you out the path to your ultimate goal. Most of the time we focus on quitting bad habits. Instead of quitting junk food, shift your energy towards eating more veggies and grains. If you want to lose weight, start counting how many calories you’re in-taking in a day and focus on limiting them. Typical positive habits people tend to form are meditation, journaling, practicing gratitude, exercising, and eating more veggies. I went out to eat the other night with a friend and instead of having a burger or something I normally get, I ate a Cobb Salad.
Baby steps. We tend to make a huge list of new changes needed to be made and think we can achieve them all at once. Focusing on one habit at a time will prevent being overloaded with too many at once. The more you do at one time, the less likely you are to maintain them all. If you were to ask a habit-guru, they would confirm this!
Any step in the right direction can be seen as a success. We all move at different paces. Most of us underestimate the importance of this mind-set, and I can assure you, being mindful of any progress and seeing it as success, is just as important as actually sticking to the habit.
When I started meditating I set an hour-long goal. This was absurd, ha! A first time meditator will rarely have the discipline to complete an hour. I set it to TWO-MINUTES. I went from a goal of one hour to two-minutes. Now I’m up to 20 minutes a day. I also wanted to get back in shape so instead of jumping back into a strong yoga class or lifting weights, I just implemented a four mile walk with my dog. I understand the importance of starting small. I can go big or go home later!
When I was hell-bent on eating healthier, I started with adding a salad before every meal. After a month or so, my meal preps went from ⅓ veggies up to ½.
Another major downfall i experienced was not setting reminders. For the longest time my calendar was filled with all business-related stuff. My meals and exercise hours are now blocked out and I made them as important as meeting with a client, or going to a doctors appointment. Another major practice to incorporate is creating a way to hold myself accountable. If I were to miss a meal or skip a workout day I’d let myself slide. But now that I have some friends that ask me if I finished my health goals for the week, they remind me that there’s no excuses and help me to hold myself accountable. I always tend to perform better when I know someone is helping me raise the bar.
If you need help with accountability, reach out to me directly. I’d be glad to help.
I’ve found the reward comes from completing my goals each and every day and not reaching the end result. New habits won’t stick if we hate doing them. Making a mental shift that allows ourselves to enjoy the process will bring lasting results. After that initial two weeks of resistance, I tend to feel more alive moving my body and getting that ‘sweat-on’. Every time I finish for the day I remind myself to be grateful for the small step towards the end-goal.
Consistency is key! The more consistent we tend to be, the better. There will always be resistance which typically come in the form of excuses, but pushing through it will bring a sense of daily accomplishment. Old mental patterns can be a b**** to break but it gets easier with time.
Lastely, writing down the results weekly so I can see the progress is a great way to get a visual picture of our success. At the end of the week I feel a great sense of pride and my accountability partner will also celebrate in my success.
Again, if you’d like some support in forming these habits, I invite you to reach out for help.